Who do you surround yourself with?

Someone once told me “You are a sum of the 5 people you surround yourself with.”

When it comes to relationships, we are greatly influenced whether we like it or not- by those closest to us.  It affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem, and our decisions. Although we are each our own person, research shows that we are more affected by our environment then we think.

So the question is: Who do you surround yourself with?

Are they people that are positive? Do they push you to your full potential? Do they encourage you and your ideas and dreams? If they answer is yes then you are doing a great job at choosing your friends. But If you think about your friends and words like negative, discouraging, unmotivated and unsupportive come to mind, you may want to re-evaluate those friendships and if they are worth sacrificing your goals and dreams for.

We are only as strong as our weakest link and if someone is constantly pulling you down its gonna be extremely hard to reach your full potential. Don’t let toxic relationships drag you down.

Take some time and really think about who you want to surround yourself with.  For me, I want to be around people that will constantly propel me forward. Friends that aren’t afraid to push me out of my comfort zone,  that want me to succeed and will encourage me every step of the way. Don’t settle for anything less then the BEST!

Do I need to do this?

Do you ever have activities that you dread doing or going to? Have you ever sat down and asked yourself, will this bring me joy/excitement/goodness?

Honestly, I’m not the best at doing this and that’s why I wanted to share some wisdom that I’ve learned along the way. We all must learn to say NO to the things that do not serve us. If we say NO to everything, of course that’s not good. What I’m getting at is saying NO to things when you know in your heart they will not improve your life. Do make sure you are saying YES to things that will bring you out of your comfort zone to experience life in greater ways, because those things will typically lead to joy and growth.

I’m a YES girl. I need to be more of a NO girl. What about you?

I say yes to more than is good for me, but I have learned over the years what my boundaries are and what activities light me up or drain me. I love spending extra time chatting with girlfriends over coffee, but I don’t love picking up that extra shift at work. I enjoy traveling and meeting new people but I will say NO when I’ve hit my limit and need some me time. Personally, I think it’s so important that we learn to find balance in our lives and learn to recognize what fills our cup and what drains it.

Lately, being a new mom and newer wife has meant my life is out of balance and it’s been okay but now I’m ready to get back to finding Mariah – again. This will mean perfecting the great balancing act of friends, family, and self which is difficult for most women. We feel like we need to be all things to all people and that just isn’t the case. I promise you that your sanity is more important than the extra 5 hours of work that week (if you get a choice), the birthday party of your husband’s coworker, the 7 loads of laundry that need to be done and the bathroom that needs to be cleaned.

I dare you to take a cold hard look at what you’re doing to check if it aligns with your dreams, passions, and core beliefs. Are your activities and relationships bringing you joy? I challenge you to list out things that fill your cup and those that drain it, it will help clarify what to say  yes to and what to say no to in your life. This is a step towards regaining your balance.

Feature Friday: Carly Cloer

I’m so excited that Carly Cloer has given us some of her time. In this video she will talk about how she finally found her passion after years of searching for the right opportunity to be in business for herself.

Carly is a wife, mom of two boys, entrepreneur, and resides in Washington State, USA.


Time Management

Time management… why is it important, and what can I do to get things done? I used to wonder the same thing. The problem for me started when I would make a mental list of what I wanted to accomplish instead of writing it down. Unfortunately, this led to me going to bed exhausted and feeling little was achieved. I truly didn’t understand how to break this vicious cycle of waking up every morning with my goals for the day but somehow not getting it all done.

It wasn’t until I was talking to a friend about it that she asked me a simple question:

Are you scheduling out your day?

What do you mean? I asked. She reminded me that everyday there are always certain things that will happen. I am a mom, so of course I will need to love on my 2 boys and make sure everyone stays alive and unharmed during the day.  I will need to change diapers, do laundry, prepares meals and so on. The problem was that I would get so tied up in my day-to-day activities I would end up forgetting about my goals for the day.  By the time 11pm would roll around I realized my personal goals had not been achieved. She encouraged me every morning to write out not only my goals for the day, but when I was going to accomplish them. This meant that for me I get the bulk of my work done during my youngest’s nap time. I was amazed at what could happen and how much focus I had when I set aside the time each day.

The daily activities and chores do take time and should be planned out just like our goals. We are wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, professionals, entrepreneurs, and so much more. We are nurturing, and because of that often times put ourselves on the back burner. The thing is, we can do both! Sometimes it takes being creative and a little sacrifice, but in reality a big factor is time management.

I encourage you today that if you feel like you are failing at getting things done, to take a day and make time in your schedule for the things important to you. I think you will be surprised how much we are capable of.


Welcome to The Real Life Woman!

The Real Life Woman is brought to you by Mariah B. And Shelly N. If you would like to know more about us you can read more on our “founders” page.

Our goals with this blog is to provide you with real stories from not only our experiences but also other women who have been asked to add value to our page. We want to touch on topics that relate to all aspects of life. We also want to share tips on nutrition, DIY, spiritual resources, and even finances! If ever there is a specific topic you are hoping to learn about we encourage you to reach out to us.

We hope that you will find encouragement, validation, and resources that fit your lifestyle. We have talked about and planned this blog for quite some time now. It is so exciting to see our plans and hard work now become a reality. We would definitely appreciate and welcome all feedback and suggestions, please use the comment box for each blog post.

We are so thankful for each of you and pray that through The Real Life Woman you will be encouraged to dream big and be better equipped with the tools and education to run hard after those dreams!

“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.”

-Edmund Lee